What You Know, Who You Know, and How Well You Know It

…It’s all relative to how well you know yourself.

I saw this quote on a Facebook Fan Page today and it made me stop and think:

You know you’re emotionally healthy when in the heat of the moment you take your own advice. You do what you’d tell somebody else to do if you were removed from the situation. If you can do that, you’re a champ.

This is some true stuff.

I started meditating back in November because I wanted to get a hold of my life as well as my sense of self. Regardless of accomplishments as an adult, I feel like my sense of well being was crossing lines with lots of other stuff that I wasn’t dealing with over many years. Staying busy and trying to “accomplish” as much as possible over a period of time had in essence drowned out my inner voice. At the rate I was going, I wasn’t going to suddenly wake up someday and say, “oh, it all makes sense! I was working (and living) myself into the ground at an accelerated rate all for the purpose of ______.” Nope, I had no idea what I was doing and I had no idea how to stop (or at least slow down).

So, with the help of some very beautiful people in my life, I started meditating daily. No, my world wasn’t flipped upside down day one, nor were all of my problems solved, however, taking 20 minutes, twice a day, allowed me to get back so much more of what I was giving away to the world.

Getting “caught up”, wasn’t a priority for a portion of the day and it felt wonderful.

So, do I follow up on what the above quote says every time things get heated in an elevated situation? No, not every time, however I’ve surprised myself a few times by stepping outside myself for a moment and actually pivoting around my impulses, rather than letting them control me. That, too, felt great.

I’m well known for making broad, blanketing statements that vary in fidelity when put to the test, however I can say that everybody really should try to take some time out of their day to back away from what’s pressing them. Whether it’s meditating (I practice Transcendental Meditation) or just taking a bit of time to sit quietly outside or by yourself somewhere, it just helps. It helps with stress, anxiety, sadness, etc. It doesn’t make life go away, but it probably breaks down some of the barriers which keep you from dealing with life effectively.

There are lots of different ways to meditate which you can check out here.

3 thoughts on “What You Know, Who You Know, and How Well You Know It”

  1. James,

    What I’ve always found interesting is the difference between people who don’t/can’t listen to themselves. It seems like a basic skills, but its not. There was a Radio Lab on recently that was discussing how much we, the west, focus on thinking/logic and brute mental power to make decisions, instead of relaying on the subconscious. I’ve only recently began to notice the difference and listen to myself more. Glad that you have too.


    1. @chris, yeah, it’s not really obvious because life is designed to suck you in and spit you out (birth to death). Assuming we only have the years on this planet and that’s it, being a willing part of the blind-folded isn’t what I’m interested in. Cheers to waking up.

  2. Great post. I’ve been trying to meditate since 2007. I finally really started doing it a couple years ago. I had a hard time letting go and just “being still” and letting the thoughts flow over me and then actively acknowledge and quiet them. I thought meditation was supposed to be completely quiet. It isn’t. That is great you started practicing. It is a great thing to do and it transfers over into so many aspects of life, beyond those 30 minutes of practice. I love David Lynch’s writings on meditation.

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